Coaching and Winning
Let me ask you a question. How many of us like to lose? That’s a silly question, right? Of course no one likes to lose. We all want to win and we all want to associate with winners! In life, as motivational speaker Les Brown once said, “There are winners and there are losers, and there are some people who just don’t know how to win. All they need is a little coaching to learn how to win.” The Design to Win campaign is about teaching and coaching you how to win so that you don’t end up being a rotten banana.
The Banana’s Plight
Now, I’m sure you want to know what I mean by that. Over the summer of 2018, I saw an image and a situation that unfolded over two months that inspired me, challenged me and convinced me to stay on the path of empowerment that I am currently on to empower people, especially youths, to win in their lives and careers.
Over the course of two months, I saw my neighbour’s banana tree fall with some lovely green bananas, perhaps nine hands. These lovely bananas were just left there. Day after the day, the sun burned them and day after day, my soul grieved.
During that time, I went overseas on a ministry trip, and upon my return what I saw broke my heart. There, lying on the ground was a bunch of brown rotten bananas. These bananas could have been food on someone’s table and money in someone’s pocket. But alas, they were wasted!
This image made me weep because as this process unfolded, God began to talk to me about mentoring, about my mission in life and about what I could have become.
I could have become like those rotten bananas but today, I am blessing to others travelling around the world, being fruitful and useful.
Two significant questions came to mind as this story unfolded.
- Who will fall by the wayside because no one is there to support them?
- Who will become a bunch of rotten bananas because no one can see the design of how useful they can become?
My Design to Win Story
If you know anything about a banana tree, you will know that once it starts bearing fruit, it needs a stick to support it because it will topple under the weight of its fruit. If there is no support, chances are the fruit will not come to maturity and the tree will die.
Like the banana tree, I was falling by the wayside, struggling with suicidal ideation while in teachers’ college. I could not see the uses for my life. I had no sense of purpose, felt insignificant and unloved. Every day I was praying to die and asking God: “why are you waking me up each morning?”
Then one day, a young man invited me to a church and there God through his servants revealed the design he had for my life. God revealed that He was going to use me around the world to empower people. Thereafter, everything changed and my life has since then become useful and fruitful.
In Jeremiah 29:11, God says to a dispossessed and disheartened people, “I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” I believe this promise is not just for them then but a promise for us today.
The Value of a Design
Design to Win is both a noun and a verb. To “Design to Win” is to have a vision of your future and to intentionally create a plan and strategy to bring that future to life. It’s not just enough to see what you can become. You have to act to bring it to life! You need sight, strategy, support and skills to bring that design to life.
By the way, there is more to the story of my neighbour’s banana tree. While the banana tree was lying on the ground, a new shoot sprung up. “As they say when banana waan dead, it shoot.” This means a banana tree will give birth to another before it dies. This is very significant because it speaks of succession. You truly do not have a Design to Win if you do not raise up others or leave a legacy for others. Your gift must not die with you.
Sadly, that’s still not the end of the story. Because my neighbour did not have a design for the banana tree or its shoot, both died. My neighbour eventually cut down both the tree and its shoot. That which could have become a blessing to others now has no chance to.
So let me ask you:
- Will you become a rotten banana?
- Who will fall by the wayside because there is no support?
- Who will get cut down because there is no design to win?
Or better yet, who will become fruitful and useful and bless many because of a Design to Win?
Get Your Design to Win
Motivational speaker and author, Jim Rohn said it best. I will paraphrase his words, words which transformed my life in 2010, and started me thinking about design.
If your life is spared, 5 years from now you will arrive. The question is, where? In 5 years, you’ll arrive at an either well designed destination or an undesigned destination… You don’t want to kid yourself about where; You don’t want to kid yourself about the road you’re walking… Now is the time to fix the next 5 years because here’s what you don’t want to engage in: disillusion: hoping without acting; wishing without doing. The key is to take a look and say, Where am I? What could I do to make the changes to make sure that I can take more certain daily steps toward the treasure I want, the mental treasure, the personal treasure, the spiritual treasure, the financial treasure?
And if you can’t see the design, ask God to show you because I know from experience, life does not get better by chance, it gets better by design. Intentionally Design to Win today, so you don’t end up a rotten banana. The Design to Win Road Map book will help you to do just that. Get it on Amazon.
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